Why We Follow Other People?

We follow other people in life because either we fixate on this idea there has to be ‘an answer‘ right away on standby or we are conditioned to accept any logical and rational ‘conclusion‘ so as to end quickly any need for further and potentially troubling inquiry. This is our approach to handling any challenges that are going in our life that we cannot seem to fix or resolve for ourselves. Assert or reduce ourselves to be a ‘follower’ of someone else’s authoritarian system(s). There are a ton of people out here selling their answer(s) to your supposed problem(s). All you have to do is commit to follow their program/system to get the results you desire. Then, what happens is there is a divide or separation as to what you think you are allowed to know and experience for yourself and what you are not. Nonetheless, how does that help you understand yourself when you start out with or give certain limitations to yourself out the gate?

Deep Rooted Partiality

Does that not make you curious to inquire why we have answer(s) that are rooted in partiality which we respond with to the challenges of life? How did we arrive at this junction in which the answer to any question didn’t lie within us? That there is always seemingly someone external to us that has the answer to fix your problem, but never an answer as to how you/I came to have the problem(s) in the first place.

Losing Who We Are

I think the phenomena happened when we lose who we are. We lost that connection to our inner selves. I can briefly explain how I think that happened and you are free to explore that within yourself to see if that resonates within you or not. As we grow from a children into adults, we are faced with choices all through our life where we must respond to both people and the external environment how we/I personally think and feel —our attitude. That response should come from an honest place as to how well we understand our attitude and to what degree we exercise it as knowledge no matter who or how the recipient of that response receives it. Should we/I fail to do this in life because we/I cater our responses to the audience, soon we/I will not know who or what our true attitude is towards anything. We will then be consciously or unconsciously looking to others who seem to have answer(s) to the question(s) for which you are seeking.

One Notable Follower Characteristic

As a follower, one can be characterized as saying one thing while knowing yourself honestly to be feeling the total opposite of what is said or vice versa. That is the nature of following —being to have dishonesty between your true thoughts and emotions. Therefore, throughout life, it will likely lead to disintegrated answer(s). For example, if you have problems with your weight and a need for spiritual guidance. What you wind up getting are answers to how to address your weight that will very likely collide or conflict with your spiritual needs. So as to further cause unrelenting conflict and a whole new set of problems to arise. Then, you stay out of sorts within yourself. This leads to more conflict and more dependence and desperation for answer(s) or people who claim to know them. Typically, the answer(s) are never comprehensive as to integrate and thus end the conflict you are now having in yourself.

Proponents of Following

As such an adept follower and proponent of following, nothing in your own life makes any real sense and your life becomes more and more meaningless until you simply can’t respond anymore to what your personal needs are. You become fat with other peoples bad ideas on how to fix yourself with some band-aid of endless struggle to achieve meaning or satisfaction. You lose yourself, and in some case, have no good idea as to how you got here in the first place. The emptiness is hidden with jargon and you are devoid of genuine thought and feeling for yourself as to how you are personally to respond to life’s challenges. As a follower, you respond through someone else’s carefully crafted proxy of how you are to think and act. Emasculated, you never are being yourself, you’re a shadow of someone else’s image of what you should be.

Being True to Oneself

If you don’t ever learn the importance of being yourself, you won’t ever learn to re-integrate yourself through being absolutely honest as to how you truly think and feel. In other words, an honest response of ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to some question/challenge is the same in any case given irregardless as to the circumstances or potential consequences. That can be said to be —being ‘true’ to oneself. Then, that allows for us to setup the proper boundaries in our lives so as to not to be impeded on by others. So, unwarranted advice or imposing ideas do not make an impression on our minds because we’re not an impressionable follower. Anything attempting to enter our mind or our mind’s space must go through a filter so it can be sanitized as to its legitimacy to enter or be repelled. An idea or information is only adopted if it can be characterized to integrate with you; thus, your life. Otherwise, it is cast off.

In Closing

So, a person who follows can be characterized as a person who needs other people to explain for them how they should do things in their life; whereas, someone who is not a follower trust their gut instincts, reasoning, life experience, and feelings (heart) to guide their steps. I hope it is clear now why we follow other people and with this information; hopefully, either the journey begins or starts over.